Rebecca Stead
Wendy Lamb/Penguin, April, 2020 224 pages
Grades 3-6
Realistic Fiction
"The List of Things That Will Not Change" is written in
a notebook given to Bea two years ago by her parents as they announce their
divorce, brought about by the Dad's discovery that he is gay. Now it is the present
day and Dad is planning his wedding to Jesse, bringing Bea not only a
stepfather, but an aunt she adores and a new sister. As an only child Bea has
always longed for a sister, yet Sonia seems difficult to get to know, even
though they are the same age. To complicate matters Bea's cousin is suffering
from Bells-Palsy and she feels responsible from an incident that happened
the summer before. Bea struggles with anxiety and eczema, which seems to flare
up when under stress. Visits with her therapist seem to help, yet she still has
a hard time adjusting to change and is sensitive to the needs of others. Will
this wedding be the joyous occasion Bea hopes it will be or will external
factors, other family members, and Bea’s anxiety mar the happy event?
Stead generally writes layered stories that contain a fantastical
element or a mystery. This is a sweet linear story that is character driven and
delivers exactly what is promised. Readers will enjoy getting to know Bea, who
truly feels like a friend by book's end. Bea is a fully realized character who
suffers from worry and ill-placed guilt. Many children will sympathize and
relate to her. The chapters are short with interesting names and the book reads
quickly. Though the plot is simple and quiet, the story is enchanting and I
could not put it down. This is the second book in a row that I have read with a
divorce/gay father, proving that this is an issue that many children are
currently dealing with. Growing up in the 1970's, divorce became common, yet
there were few books previously written on the topic. Suddenly, the market was
flooded. Kids are still struggling with divorce, yet in new and different ways,
and the market is reflecting this. In both recent books the divorce is
extremely friendly and the child is protected and emotional needs are met. This
is a positive example for the best way to dissolve a family and Bea
is made to feel safe and loved at both of her homes. Stead also deals with
issues of anxiety (a wide-spread problem in today's children) and misplaced
guilt in a reassuring manner. Although a terrific book to hand to kids in
similar situations, all readers will enjoy spending time with Bea and her
family.